Today, from the bottom of my ambitious, combative feminist heart, I have a gift for you.
There is a career blogger whom I find myself recommending to friends (even strangers!) almost daily.
>> Skip to the end if you want to enter to win a free BullCon ticket! Nov 2 - 5 in Washington, DC. <<
Please meet Jennifer Dziura of Get Bullish, the home of "aggressive lady advice."
Their mascot is a bull with a unicorn horn.
I almost wrote "our" mascot, which shows you just how strongly I identify with the Bullish community. This is not news to anyone who knows me.
Since college, Get Bullish has been my #1 career resource. And, to be quite honest, it is the only career advice that I can trust 100%. And the only advice I feel I can recommend to my queer, non-gender-confirming feminist friends.
As a somewhat belligerent and philanthropically inclined feminist, much of the career advice online is irrelevant to me. Or insulting. We've all seen those terrible slide decks with cliche advice from mediocre white men (and women!).
"Change the pitch of your voice to sound less feminine!" "Visualize abundance!" "You're just imagining oppression!"
As my career has wobbled and triumphed unexpectedly over the last six years, Get Bullish has been a constant ally.
So please, for the love of feminism & the destruction of the white heteronormative patriarchy, check out Get Bullish!
Here are three reasons why you need Get Bullish in your life.
1. Get Bullish literally has the answers to ALL of your career questions. Or Jen will research & find a brilliant solution.
Negotiation how-to? Check.
Side hustle tips? Check.
Submission-based advice column? Check.
2. Recently, Bullish has launched the Bullish Society, a way for feminist career types to strategically help each other take over the world in a private online space.
I'm a member, and it's only $10 month. It's like Facebook, but without the trolls, plus unicorn humans who are really smart and invested in your success! Join here.
3. Finally, BullCon 2017 is in DC, from November 2 - 5.
The Bullish Conference is now an annual event. Imagine a vacation + business planning retreat, with feminist career experts on site, a room full of feminist friends, and plenty of cocktails. Sounds good, right?
A CAREER CONFERENCE FOR FEMINISTS WHO WANT TO MAKE THE WORLD & THE WORKPLACE BETTER
Come to the 5th annual BullCon, where there is no reason you can't have a roundtable on sexism in the workplace followed by champagne. Literally none. GetBullish and the Bullish Conference have been bringing it since 2013.
You want to be there, right???
Buy a ticket here.
Or, enter to WIN a free ticket here!
You owe it to your future self to do some planning, and meet some new feminist friends.
Plus, Embassy Row in DC? A bunch of badass humans plotting the destruction of the patriarchy in the seat of American governmental power?
Don't miss this!
For every year that I have made New Year's Resolutions, I have studiously avoided any real commitment to wellness.
Wellness is complex. It takes a lifetime, right? That, and I have always wanted to focus more on my holistic experience of wellness, rather than the numbers. Setting a goal weight may work for some people, but for me, my weight has always felt like a side-step around a true facing of my own physical body, mental state, and overall wellbeing.
I am actually in better shape than ever, thanks to a combination of traveling, living rurally, cooking at home, and having the mental space to meet my own emotional needs.
But this year feels different. 2017 is bursting with unwelcome hurdles, beckoning my better self forth. Next year, I have the opportunity and obligation to do my best work, to benefit myself and my community.
I have to fight hard. I want to fight hard.
My wellness needs to be vivid, thriving, overflowing. I want to have the energy, stability, flexibility, and strength to face the uncertain future (or very certain enemies). I want enough to share with others who are more vulnerable.
I feel that I have much to offer this year, if only my physical and mental wellbeing can support me. My 2017 theme is ILLUMINATION. Bringing bright light to dark spaces, sitting with the dark spaces and finding inner light.
So, it's time to find a physical manifestation of this inner velocity. Can I walk the path only in spirit? How can I bring my body along, too? What have I been missing in this mind-body-spirit trifecta?
So many people have inspired my understanding of wellness. For instance, my friend Hannah and her inspiring medieval armored combat. And numerous friends in my secret feminist Facebook group who share their mental health journeys.
This was also the year that I truly came to grips with my sensory processing issues, which has made them much easier to handle (with immense gratitude to my patient and compassionate partner).
Wellness is complex, and every person has a unique recipe for wellness.
For you, it might be allowing yourself to eat that food that makes you feel guilty. Because maybe those extra few pounds are more healthy than a mind that taunts and torments you.
For another, it might be buying that gym membership instead of pretending you like to run outdoors in the rain.
For others, it might mean taking the time to sit in silence every night, alone in the dark. No? Just me??
Wherever you find yourself on this New Year's Eve, I hope you take a quiet moment to re-imagine what your wellness could look like.
Wellness is a gift that only you can give to yourself. Wellness affects everything else in your life. And you can start now.
In 2017, here is my vision of wellness:
Wishing you all a joyous and peaceful end to 2016, and here's to a rambunctious, revelatory, and rejuvenating 2017.
eating: nutmeg butternut squash ravioli from Edinbane Inn on the Isle of Skye
making: recordings of Christmas songs to send to family & friends
reading: undecided -- just finished Naomi Klein's book on climate change, and seeking a dose of fiction
wanting: a meaningful community & meaningful challenges at work
deciding: where to push, and where to relax
enjoying: traveling on a remote island and enjoying quality time with my partner
wondering: when it will finally be time to meet my future cats!
watching: all the Christmas movies
noticing: the ways in which happiness is simple and effortless
helping: others to stay furious in a way that's healthy
What's happening for you this week?
eating: dal and raita from DesiPDX
making: lists of sound equipment and lighting DIYs
reading: how Paris Hilton gamed the world with exaggerated femininity
wanting: to buy and renovate a house!
deciding: how to start getting back into my body
enjoying: exploring new neighborhoods of Portland, thanks to housesitting
wondering: how I ever got so lucky
watching: 52 films by women
noticing: examples of shine theory in my networks
helping: to bring transparency and courage to creative activism
What's happening for you this week?
Some say that artists stand on the shoulders of giants, but I think that's a patriarchal and simplistic perspective on creativity.
Rather, the artists that I admire draw inspiration from other artists across time and space. They work outside the binary. They collaborate and cross-fertilize. They don't stand on anyone's shoulders without offering a hand up.
I find Canadian filmmaker Ingrid Veninger deeply compelling -- both the work she produces, and the artist herself. If you care about feminist filmmaking, here are three reasons you should know about Ingrid Veninger.
Ingrid recruits and leads teams of creative people into bold territory. They trust her to lead them into the beyond. Sometimes, they even sign onto her projects without a script. In her film The Animal Project, she auditioned actors and then wrote a script. Her award-winning films are accessible and smart, mumblecore and nuanced.
Ingrid is generous. Twice, she has won a cash prize and re-granted it to other writers. Her 1k Wave project delivered five grants of $1000 to filmmakers and resulted in five fantastic feature films in 2012. And she's at it again this year.
Ingrid lifts up other women writers. In 2014, she won the EDA Award in Whistler and partnered with Oscar winner Melissa Leo to fund a six month pUNK Film Femmes Lab for six Canadian women writer/directors. This project resulted in six feature film scripts and a powerful network of mutual support.
Ingrid's most recent film, He Hated Pigeons, was filmed in Chile. It's traveling the festival circuit now, and every performance has a different musical score, improvised by local, live musicians.
"You don't have to wait for permission from anyone to do your art."